Discussion Topic: Let's talk about permission and comfort

Have you ever been engaged in a conversation with your spouse and, gradually, you feel like the discussion is becoming you asking for permission? Whether it's taking the kids to a new place, or jumping in the family van for some four-wheelin', you kind of think, "I shouldn't have to ask permission."

Consider the possibility that when you find yourself feeling like you're asking for permission, you may be compromising your spouse's comfort.

• How would the conversation change if you said, "I feel like you're not comfortable with this idea. Can we talk about that?
• You may not have to ask permission for everything from your spouse, but shouldn't you seriously consider a change of course if it creates a significant reduction of their comfort?
• How can you navigate the conversation to put it back on a level where one is not feeling belittled and the other is not feeling discomfort?